Hi everyone! Happy Holidays! This is going to be a different style of blog. If you haven’t figured it out already from the title, I’m Parker, Alexis’s boyfriend, and I’m writing a blog post for her. She doesn’t know that I’m writing this and the whole idea is technically one of her Christmas gifts from me. Basically, two years ago, Alexis wrote a blog entry, “What I’ve Learned from Living with My Boyfriend,” and since then she has wanted me to write her a response blog. Of course, since this is me we’re talking about, it taken me two years to get to this point. And so, without further ado, Merry Christmas Alexis! Here is my response on what I’ve learned about living with you after two years.
- Sharing is Caring. It’s cliché, sure, but it’s the truth. Be reasonable about what really is yours. If you care about your SO, you’ll know that the “What’s mine is yours” comes in to play, not because you’re forced to share, but because setting boundaries with who is allowed to use what is absurd and a little messy.
- The Bill. Listen, we’re all grown-ups here. If you, for whatever reason, can’t afford to spend the money for two every night, you should either make a dinner at home, or agree to split the bill. It’s totally understandable to split the bill if you’re low on money, or trying to save up for some present for your sweetie. This also applies to buying groceries, split footing the money for this and low-and-behold, it’s half the cost for more food.
- Transparency. If you have a problem, discuss it with your SO. Why let anything get bottled up with the person you care most about? If there’s an issue you have, or something you have on your mind, be open about and communicate. Communication is, and will forever be, the healthiest part of being in a relationship.
- Find time to see one another. This is one of those broader ideas. Find a point in your day, can be in the middle or at the end of the day, to just devote your time to your SO. It can be hard to distinguish that person you care about as not just your roommate after living together for so long. Listen to how their day was, talk about things you want to do or are excited for, plan out things for the weekend.
- Dinner during the week. A good rule of thumb for Alexis and me is if you are the first one home, it’s best if you’re the one to start on making dinner. I’m not a great cook. Hell, I’m not even a good cook. But I still have a few meals I have on rotation that work any time I’m home first.
- Binge-watching. Yep. This is my last point. I know, kinda lame, but I can’t handle binge-watching a show for more than a few hours. I get a headache and feel like my day is going to waste. But, Alexis loves watching television, which means Netflix is always on. I find that after I reach that point of being sick of the show, it’s the best time to go off and do something on my own (work, video games, reading, etc.) It also helps that I can usually just tune out whatever is on and focus on work and pay attention to the shows periodically.
Well, that’s about as much as I could think of. Living with Alexis is an absolute delight (although don’t let her know that, her ego is big enough as it is.) If I am somehow roped in to doing another of these, I’ll speak to you all two years after that point!
Merry Christmas, Alexis!